Passion Project 2019 - Inspiring Women of Sioux Falls - Victoria
Oct 8, 2019 | By: Maggie Sweets
One day, I went to work and as I was going through my inbox, I noticed an inquiry from a woman named Victoria Borges for a pageant headshot. I like to start my client interactions with a phone call and after I talked with Victoria on what she was looking for, I got to know more and more about her including her love for volunteering, being a strong influence for youth and her passion for health and fitness. I knew that I had to set up a meeting with Victoria and see if she would be willing to be apart of my Passion Project so you can get to know her too! As I photographed her and her family, I talked to Victoria about so much including her plans for the future and being involved in the community and wow, does she have some great ideas! It's my pleasure to introduce to you, Victoria Borges.
Tell us about yourself? Where are you from? Describe your family?
I am originally from Ct, I grew up a block from the beach, hence my love of ocean views. I have two sisters and a brother who all still reside in Ct. My husband Tony, daughter Jordan and I moved here six years ago with our dog Hayden for a management position that Tony accepted at the Argus Leader.
What is your biggest passion and how do you want to get that to the community?
I am passionate about my Perfect for Your Purpose message, which was birthed from the truth that we all are unique individuals with giftings, talent and a purpose that enables us to live our best lives and be of service and or a blessing to others now. Instead of waiting until we feel we've got it all together before we pursue our dreams, I intend to teach, inspire and motivate others to know that they are everything they need to be right now to start living in their purpose.
Any future plans? Can you tell us about Mrs. International and what you hope to accomplish
with the winning of that title?
I am very excited for The Mrs. SD International 2020 pageant. I have been preparing for a year which has been very rewarding and productive. As Mrs. SD International, my aspirations would be to continue to promote my platform which is Building self-esteem and confidence through Health and Fitness. I will wholeheartedly endorse this pageant and all the positive benefits that any girl or woman will gain by participating as I have. Should I be given the honor of the title, I have a marketing plan in place that will start immediately. I would like to be known as the hardest working Mrs. SD International.
What are your biggest hardships that you have had to over come?
Obviously, the loss of loved ones is hard. My mother's death on April 2nd of 2018 was especially devastating. Although, it continues to be a heartache that I live with, my beliefs allow me to take comfort in the hope that I will see her again. With all that being said, I would have to say what has been my lifelong struggle since my teens has been the one of building self-esteem, beating depression and weight loss. As a young teenage girl, even though I was healthy, I was above the weight chart standards. I was bullied for being overweight which was devastating. I struggled with depression, low self esteem and hopelessness. Fortunately, I had a father who thought I was beautiful and a mother with a fighting spirit. So, I learned to get up when life knocked me down. Insecure and desperate for relief, I believed that conforming to the ideal standard of beauty would rescue me from the relentless teasing. I reinvented myself, learned how to apply makeup, design and wear the high fashion trends, and over a summer I lost 30-40lbs. This led me to my passion for Health and Fitness and Fashion Design. After graduation I attended The Fashion Institute of Technology, in New York City.
What is one thing you want your daughter to know as she grows up?
There is so much outside influence that dictates what the ideal standards are that girls should aspire to as they develop their identity and place in society. Girls are swayed to look outside of themselves to establish their belief about themselves and others. Their self worth gets entangled in the mixed messages that they receive resulting in low self-esteem, confusion, competition amongst themselves that sometimes results in bullying. Furthermore, many girls fall prey to unhealthy addictions, self-harm, eating disorders, suicidal thoughts and sadly suicide. If we continue to not be satisfied with who we are as girls, we grow up to be women who lack self-esteem, confidence and make unwise choices. This leads many of us at best, not live up to our full potential and at worst to never believe in ourselves in the future. I've experienced this myself and have seen my teenage daughter and her friends face the same challenges but intensified by social media. I've always taught my daughter to surround herself with people who celebrate her, not tolerate her. True friends may not always agree with you but they will support you and make you feel good about yourself. I've taught her to listen to her instincts, and not to ignore red flags. What I want her and all girls to learn is this; to embrace their one of a kind beauty and strength. Love themselves by taking care of their body, mind and spirit through health and fitness, which builds self-confidence, strength and character.
What is a favorite quote?
I have many meaningful quotes, it's hard to pick a favorite. I'll share two, my most recent favorite and my all time favorite.
"And one day she discovered she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears." - Mark Anthony
Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in every circumstance by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your requests known to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your heart and mind. - Phil 4:6,7